You Are Not Forgotten

There were days during my years in overseas ministry when I wondered if anyone remembered me. I hadn’t heard from my parents in a while or received any mail (or later, an email). Didn’t they know I needed someone to show they cared?

If you’re able to read this blog post, then more than likely you’re much more “connected” with the world than I was in the early years of my time in service. Being connected, however, doesn’t always mean you hear from people that really want to hear from you. Even texts and video calls can be superficial and leave a lot to be desired. So, what do you do when you feel more and more isolated in ministry and life?

Remember whose you are.

He who knew you in the inmost parts certainly knows you now. You are your Beloved’s just as much today as you were on the day you put your trust in him. Though you feel like you’re walking in the valley of the shadow of death, He is still with you. When you are afraid, the Lord goes with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. You can cast all your anxieties and worries on him because he cares for you.

If you are struggling to remember, go to the Word. Cry to him in your loneliness and let him fill the void.

Remember you are part of a larger family.

Even when your blood relatives break connections or don’t get why you’re doing what you’re doing, God has blessed us with a larger and even more tight-knit family—His. If you are letting your needs be known through newsletters or video messages, be comforted in the fact that brothers and sisters in Christ are praying for you. While connecting with you is an encouragement, it is more important that they are connecting with the Father on your behalf, lifting up the requests you share for yourself, yes, but also for those you serve.

A dear sister in my life group often talks about the importance of Christians “being real.” This extends to you in ministry as well. Don’t be shy to share with your prayer supporters that you are struggling and could use some encouragement. God will take that act of transparency and lay it on the heart of someone who will reach out at just the moment you need it. People can’t react to what they don’t know.

You are remembered by those who’ve gone before.

Anyone who’s served in cross-cultural or local ministry becomes the next generation of prayer supporters for that people once they retire or move on. I cannot help but pray for the people and countries where I have served. As one who knows the challenges in those places, I can easily pray for those who are serving there now. My service overseas also leads me to pray for other countries and peoples when I see the news or hear of trials in a specific place.

You may not hear directly from former missionaries or ministers, but you can rest in knowing they are praying for you. Until the Lord returns or calls us home, those who know what’s at stake are praying. Take comfort in that and thank God for them.

Reach out to those who write or blog.

If you’re struggling today with feeling forgotten, write me! If you don’t write me, write another blogger or author who writes on missions and service. I will answer you and pray for you. You are not forgotten.

Grace and Peace

3 thoughts on “You Are Not Forgotten

  1. It is a great reminder that we are His 🙌🏼 My husband & I have been overseas for 8 yrs, two different countries.
    I definitely struggle with loneliness! We are emptynesters after raising 5 boys.
    Where we currently live, our connections are with younger families who are busy with kiddos…and I get it, but just don’t have the my season friend!
    Friends back in the states, I feel like just don’t reach out 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ll text when I think of them but always feel like it’s one-sided!

    Thanks for the reminder! Dhana

    1. Dhana, Thank you so much for sharing. It is so hard once the nest empties for sure. Know you are missing your boys. Five — wow — my two were a handful! 🙂 Being in a different season of life than colleagues can be difficult. Praying the Lord will open ways for you to now encourage others, as you’ve walked in their shoes, but also find encouragement from another woman who is in the same stage of life as you. I encourage you to share with stateside friends your need for someone to reach out more proactively. Asking the Lord now to put this need on the heart of just the right person for you. May the Lord continue to bless and use you and your husband as you serve. Don’t hesitate to reach out anytime! Blessings.

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